Shivering in the Shower: Girl vs Heat Intolerance

The steam was blinding. I inhaled it like it was cigarette smoke, inviting the vapor into my lungs and feeling it relax every tense muscle, one by one. The warm mist was like nicotine, soothing and addictive, and I came back every night to get my fix, eager and greedy. I was hooked, I was obsessed, I was completely dependent on a hot shower to keep me sane. 

A hot shower used to be my daily ritual, my nightcap and melatonin, but more than anything, it was my happy place; I adored hot showers. I loved the clean feeling I’d wear for the remainder of the night, the soft smell of strawberry soap diffusing sweetly from my skin. I loved the warmth that radiated from my body for hours, feeling snug and cozy and tenderly taken care of. I loved everything the shower stood for: relaxation, serenity, peace. My nightly hot showers were dear to me, a privilege I understood to be a joy. A privilege that, due to a chronic medical condition, was swiped from my grasp over the course of a year.

I used to always say “there’s nothing a hot shower can’t fix”. And for a long time, I believed this to be true. It could sooth heartbreak, rejection, bad moods and bad days. It could ease sore muscles, clear out sinuses, effortlessly untangling twisted thoughts and feelings. But when I was diagnosed with a debilitating form of dysautonomia last year, my beloved hot showers couldn’t make it better. In fact, they only made it worse. 

In December of 2019, a grueling tilt table test confirmed I was suffering from Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome. It’s typically referred to as POTS, partly because it’s a mouthful and partly because Big Long Doctor Words tend to freak people out. POTS is a benign condition, but don’t let the quirky acronym fool you; this disease derailed my life. I went from performing in three hour musical performances and juggling college courses with rehearsals to struggling to wash my hair or walk up a flight of stairs. This type of dysautonomia is typically characterized by racing heart rate and lightheadedness when the body is upright, due to a malfunction of the nervous system that poorly regulates blood pressure and heart rate. This makes walking or standing for moderate to long periods of time difficult and exhausting, and although this condition is not life-threatening, its debilitating symptoms are certainly life-altering. 

POTS is usually managed by increased salt and fluid intake, medications, and a modified, consistent exercise program, but it can be triggered by many different things. Warm rooms, hot days, standing up too quickly or lying down for too long. POTS can be triggered by dehydration, alcohol and hormonal changes, even from eating a moderate to large sized meal or particular foods. It doesn’t take much to send my heart racing, but heat is a consistent trigger for me. Within fifteen to twenty minutes of sitting in the sun, I begin to get tremors in my fingers, my heart rate increases, and I start to feel woozy and lightheaded if I try to walk around. This is because heat is a vasodilator, so the warmth causes my blood vessels to widen, encouraging blood to pool in my lower extremities and forcing my heart to work harder to pump blood to the rest of my body. Because of this, I’ve had to say goodbye to hot yoga, long days spent in the sun, tanning and sunbathing. I’ve said goodbye to saunas and hot tubs, most outdoor summer activities, and last but certainly not least, my beloved hot showers. Stepping into the shower at the end of a long day quickly went from a cherished stress-reliever and a therapeutic experience to a whirlwind of symptoms that sends me stumbling to the floor. 

Within two minutes of standing in a hot shower, my heart begins to pound, my fingers start to shake, I struggle to breathe, and my feet turn purple. Afterwards, I’ll feel drained of all energy, dizzy and fatigued, and become glued to the couch for the remainder of the day. It still baffles me the way a simple activity can be such a challenge, and I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have a few colorful words waiting for whoever’s up top, in charge of the universe. But because of my stubborn heat intolerance, and because I’d rather not use all my energy for the day on a simple shower, I’ve been left with no choice: begrudgingly, I’ve adopted shorter, cooler showers and baths, sitting down in the shower in an attempt to avoid symptoms. Showers are now a “get in, get out” operation, and there’s no longer time or tolerance for things I used to cherish, like singing in the shower. As a singer and music-lover for as long as I can remember, this has been one of the hardest joys to lose. Frankly, I’d give anything to belt showtunes in the shower again. 

Because of POTS, I went from singing in the shower to shivering in the shower. I went from running and dancing and singing on stage to feeling completely wiped out from simply washing my hair. It’s been five months now of this new bathing routine, five months of temptation to turn the shower knob to the left, to claim back the heat and wash like I used to. Slowly, I’ve adjusted and gotten used to the chilly water, but there’s not a day where I don’t miss when showers were no big deal. When I could hop in quickly to start my day, or take my time and unwind for the night. I miss when they didn’t have to be planned strategically with my medication regimen, aching to go back to the days when I had no idea what a beta-blocker did. I miss when water temperatures were out of preference and shower lengths were out of pleasure, when my bathroom was a private karaoke bar instead of a harsh, challenging terrain tackled day after day. There’s no denying my new shower routine is by far more eco-friendly, but I miss the privilege of a long, hot shower; a privilege that used to be mine. 

These days, I can’t go outside without an ice pack or a fan. I can’t stand in the shower, take a hot bath, enjoy a long day at the beach, or sunbathe in the summer. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed by all the constant “can’t’s”. I get sick of the “used to’s”, of the “not right now’s”, of the “maybe’s”, and the “one day’s”. I feel like I’ve been waiting forever for the “one day’s”. For the day I’ll be able to stand in the shower again, belting and riffing to my heart’s desire. For the day I’ll run a mile and not think twice about it. For the day I won’t have to worry about hot days and ice packs and whether or not a lovely afternoon outdoors will spark a nightmare of symptoms. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to truly express the strain of living restricted by your body, spending day after day dictated by an illness. I hope one day I’ll finally be free, and there is a part of me that’s brave enough to believe it, but sometimes “one day” feels perpetually far away.

But within the past few weeks, something beautiful has happened. I’ve noticed myself singing again, mindlessly, as I move about my house. A few nights ago, as I grabbed my pajamas and drew up a cool bath, I noticed myself humming an old favorite Taylor Swift song, something I haven’t done in quite some time. I stopped for a second, realizing it’s been over a year since I’ve had the energy to do this, to hum and sing like the music was a part of me, an extension of my spirit. To feel comfortable enough walking around my house, with fewer symptoms and much more ease, to express peace and contentment as music into the air. These days, thanks to physical therapy and my medication regimen, I’ve been able to move through the world almost how I used to, with lyrics and melodies and catchy tunes pouring out of me. For a moment I was struck by this facet of myself, the one that has energy for singing, for creativity and artistic expression, was here again, and it had defied the odds and risen from the wreckage of a life I loved and lost. It was a simple moment shared with no one but me, yet instantly I felt unified, whole, like all the broken parts of me were mending together. Like my emptiness was beginning to fill, like all the love I thought I lost was finally coming back to me. 

Sure, it’s still not singing in the shower, but I’d say it’s better than not singing at all.